Some important things about Autism: its a spectrum disorder (thus is affects each individual differently), its Neurological (because of how the brain physically processes information) and it can be a benefit versus a deficit (like in the cases of Temple Grandin & Nikola Tesla).
What’s it like in love? Independent Lens is going to air a special in 2016 concerning autistics and matters of the heart. That’s great and yet quite curious about the direction it may take.
At the very genesis of this blog, I posted some homemade articles concerning my experiences on the spectrum. I’ve been with my partner, David, for two and a half years. We’re both on the spectrum. In fact, we are engaged to be married.
David is a naturalist with an encyclopedic knowledge of animals, countries and cultures. He has a bachelor’s in anthropology and is vaguely interested in pursuing higher education. Personality wise, he is quiet and random with a dry sense of humor.
Some of my major interests seem to side step his. I am an Anglophile and a crafter. David’s keen on English History as far as colonization. I am fascinated by England itself (from the dark ages to the Victorian age). Currently, I am training to be a Sterile Processing Technician.
Deep down, I still fantasize about publishing articles and books. My personality is a bit more forward yet introverted with a dry sense of humor.
David and I met as a result of social networking. We knew a lady mutually. She’s a harmless creature. David found me through her friends list. Love was so awkward for him. In his defense, as a man, it is. Much more so than a woman. He tried very hard, in a textbook sense, to lure women. His intentions were pure but his body language was a bit fuzzy.
I was a woman, considered quirky. Women of the spectrum don’t have the same stigma as the men on the spectrum. Some people think of us as crazy but its often a case of hypersensitivity. Being a woman worked in my favor because society seems kinder to females as far as sexuality. It’s “cute” to be regarded as a bit strange, knowledgeable and fastiduous. Men enjoy the mystery.
There exists, in men, an inherent awkwardness that is amplified in the spectrum oriented Male. It is akin to keeping rhythm in a dance. If one becomes consumed with the number of steps, the dance is lost. For many, rituals and analyziation is the norm.
David was diagnosed early – around 14. I wasn’t diagnosed until 21.
We both agree that we could not have been with a neurotypical. There is so much to our “dance”, individually and together, that it couldn’t be explained to another half that processed things normally.
Currently jogging my grey matter for examples. More to come. If you, the reader, has any questions, feel free to send them my way. This is about understanding and awareness.