Grief and Dealing (from personal experience)

There are two categories: the openly bereaved and the closeted bereaved. Both groups are a part of the human experience. Its an extension of our being – how we navigate the sea of emotion.

Suppose an individual is social. They appear gregarious. They have a whole list of phone numbers. It is a detriment to assume that they aren’t lonely. There exists a core full of anguish perhaps.

The brightest light in the room works extra hard to supply its occupants. Grief, a part of the true human experience, is a reminder that this person wishes it not upon their fellow man.  So, to make up for internal turbulence, the person salvages any joy they may have for the greater good.

How long can a candle hold its flame? Its tragic from the start. The answer obscure.

Then you have a situation specific grief. This type of person tends to grieve quietly in the worst circumstances. They shy away from most attention, invitations, and other engagements. In private,  they scour their soul for answers and relief. At the end of the day, there may not be one.

The consummate extravert engages in all things social. They’re a force to be reckoned with. Grief becomes a communal affair. They seek out their comrades, request counsel and pull together a wavering structure. They’re verbal about their ailments. People empathize.

Is there a wrong or right way to grieve?


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